THE BEST FRAGRANCE TO HAVE ON ,COMBINED WITH LOVE IS YOUR CHARACTER!

I was in a room full of people, some looked young and oh well some were pseudo old (not really old but appeared that way).

Everyone was having fun. There was a group of ladies by the corner, sipping on tea and gossiping away like they were going to be paid for it and on the other side of the room  was a group of guys.... one of them was really quiet and all i could hear was "No i think the new BMW is better than that". It was very typical of them because a lot of men seem to love cars.  The room was so busy and everyone was minding their own business well UNTIL.......

a very beautiful lady in heels walked in, don't get me wrong all the ladies in the room were gorgeous but this one......She had this odour that simply forced itself into our nose. It violently grabbed our attention and did not want to let us go.

We all looked at her and you could see she was starting to feel uncomfortable and she tried to trick us by  depicting a Mona Lisa smile that we could all see was not genuine! 

yep!! she got that much attention because she simply SMELLED GOOD! her cologne PROVOKED PEOPLES SENSES including mine!

what is it that i love about some Fragrances?

They speak

• Luxury
• warmth
• reassurance
• freshness
• give the impression that you are clean
• strength (in terms of the smell and lasting effect)

There is something that we all have that pretty much works like the cologne she had on and that is CHARACTER.

Character is the combination of mental characteristics and behavior that distinguishes a person.

We all have this but unfortunately our characters can never be the same, in the same sense that we use different fragrances to smell different. Its very important that we focus on building our characters because they speak for us... they can speak luxury/not, they can create warmth where you are/ create a cold environment, they can bring out reassurance that you are confident and spray your strengths wherever you are, they can bring about positivity (freshness)/ radiate negativity (contaminating others), they can give us an impression or idea about how you think and carry yourself , they can determine how you will provoke our senses and the type of lasting effect you will leave with us and lastly  they can inform us about how strongor weak your character is.

Things like self love and building your self-esteem are essential but bringing restoration and growth in your character is very important.

Your character will determine how you handle storms when they come your way, it will determine how you treat different relationships, it will determine what you do after having failed at something, it will determine how you will persevere,it will determine how you can endure and it will determine how you behave after God has blessed you....BASICALLY.... Your character is the boat you need to be on in order to move from one area to another (be it from bad to good, from having nothing to having something) and in order to move from one level to another.

SO.......... as much as we want to spend time filtering our pictures, finding the perfect dress/suit and finding the perfect spouse....let us sharpen our character.  

Like sharpening a pencil, the process might hurt a little(here and there) but let us do so anyway because the results are what matter the most.

Check-list

1. self love    - CHECK!

2. loving and caring about others  - CHECK

.3. CHARACTER- CHECK CHECK!!

  

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kamogelo <3

A lil bit of Winter indulgence

WINTER WINTER WINTER!!!

i am personally not a fan of winter. It is cold, forces one to dress up ( a lot of clothes on) and it comes with a lot of colds and flu. As a student it is not my favourite season because it makes me a bit lazy and that is no exception since i have not yet graduated.

The following are a few outfits i think would be great for winter. I am a huge lover of heels which is why most outfits are heel orientated. I hope you will find something you love


 This look is by Funeka who is the owner and DV designer. It is very classy and the colours are good together haha black and white will always be.  The outfit looks warm so not only will you look gorgeous but you will be warm too.

Something elegant and sporty! (kefi styles)

white is the new black!! the heels and top are great together. The bag is that loner that stands out. i love this look(amanda du pont)

these colours are great for winter!! The heels go very well with the fur jacket and ofcourse the pants and the hair are a perfect match. speak of the "perfect pair"(DV- its not a secret)

Another outfit that speaks volumes. i love the way she co-ordinated the colours and the jewelry. Its not tooo much of it. Its enough !!! (DV- Its not a secret)

This look is quiet and yet hard to miss(on the left). The jeans and the way she made dark bold colours come together so well is what i love most about this look. I love the shoes as well.....ofcourse its not heels this time(Kefi styles)

The view is amazing

I normally sit in my room and start seeing a glimpse of the future. I believe that when you have a big vision, you are challenged to work harder and smarter. Houses are beautiful and every Queen deserves to have a view as beautiful as this..... even better

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My love for Heels

i fell inlove with these heels the moment i set my eyes on them... they are black, bold and definitely are a must have<3

Gods love.... amazing

I woke up this morning with so much to share in my heart but i wanted to share with you something that is very important.
There was a girl who was in need of a roommate and God CHOSE to stay in her room amongst many that were there. The girl would wake up in the morning and not greet/talk to God, God would suprise her with lunch and she would eat gladly and not say "Thank you". She would return to her room hurt and broken, God would offer to comfort her/strengthen her/talk to her and be there throughtout the whole storm but she preferred bottling it up and crying everyday, This hurt God so badly. This one time, she returned to her Room and God was not there.freaking out She called him and He being God picked up her call. He told her He realised that She did not have money for rent so he was paying it for her, He told her he knew she was struggling at school and wanted to give her the wisdom. He told her He knows she is broken and wants to mend her heart but to do so, He would need the blood of Jesus to finish it. God told her He was going to sacrifice His only begotten son so That she can receive freedom!! She wept.

Where am i going with this?
God loves you so much that He chose to live in you! He wants to fellowship with you, He wants to help you get back on your feet! He wants to restore your joy , peace and every area of your Life! He is saying today that He will never forsake you so Stop forsaking Him!! talk to him daily, read his word and allow him to help you in all situations!! God loves us so much that The cross demonstrates this! He loves us so much that even when we are the worst of roommates, even when we neglect him and try kick him out! He will forever be God and Forgive us when we repent !! Neglect God nomore and allow Him to guide you and Reside in you! He knows what you need before you ask, He knows what your going through!!
He is a great God who continually showers us with his LOVE and with Blessings

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The beauty of a steadfast heart

I don't normally do this but I like using practical things to send my message across. About a year back or so, I was a size 38 (being my height, you can picture how weird I looked).. I knew that my health was @ risk and losing some weight is what I needed to do. So I started going to the gym(aerobics) and for some time there was no change. This one time I went to a shop and I took a size 36 jean and it actually fit!! I was so happy and it pushed me to never give up! Now I am a size ....(Not saying anything) but let me just say, I have lost so much weight that even I am suprised!! I am not here to boast about my weightloss but I just wanted to point something out!! To never despise small beginnings! Elijah valued the "small cloud" that His servant saw!! He knew that heavy rain was gonna fall even though the cloud was as small as a mans fist!

What exactly am I saying?
Just because your Grades moved from 35% to 45% does not mean you haven't moved! Just because the position you have now is not bringing enough money does not mean You will never get where you wanted to go!! Just because you have been working out for months with no outward change does not mean there is no change in the inside. If you had an addiction and its been a month since you took part in that activity, don't stop there! Your doing very well!!!!! Persevere, have faith and Don't give up!! Rejoice in your small beginnings for when the Heavy rain of promotion come, It will be too much to take in at once. ‪#‎Have‬ a Steadfast heart!

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Love beyond the preaching

Luke 1:41 "At the sound of Marys greeting, Elizabeth's child leaped within her"

This status is going to take a different turn from what most of you expect!!
There is something we need to all understand, That God loves us ALL! Regardless of what you wear, where you stay, how educated/uneducated you are!! If this was not so then He would not allow the sun to rise for us all.

Where am I going with this?
I want to challenge you to be open-hearted! When you are Saved, Christ resides in your heart.

So?

Out of the abundance of your heart, the mouth speaks and definitely if Christ lives in your heart, you will speak him.

I have come across a lot of street kids, hungry and without clothes. They are all pregnant(not literally) with gifts, solutions to a lot of problems, inventions and a lot more! My challenge to you today is that, each time you give them a piece of bread/money/clothing, Give them a piece of Jesus with your words!! Sit down with them, hear their stories and Let them know Their sherperd! Be the reason behind The leaping of dreams, the resurrection of Faith and the change in our community!! A candle loses nothing by lighting another!! Fill the Hungry with Good things. Don't let your praise only be felt @ Church but let those who lack know that they have a God who loves them and Who can revive them and Transfigure them

   let us be a nation that impacts peoples lives regardless of what they have or don't have!

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Waiting upon the lord

Having been single for some time, i somehow always got excited when I was asked out on dates. The men who would ask me on dates were amazing men, all ladies who know them would agree with me. This one time i was listening to music and I thought to myself, my birthday is in November and since I want my husband to be my gift then why say no?! I went on one date, there was just no connection, no peace within me and i knew right then that this whole “date thing” is not worth my time. I decided to go back to my creator and talk to him…. He said the very words he had said before “Wait in me and i will let my will be done when its time”
But God? why not now? i have been waiting…these are the questions I asked but i knew very well that i should do as He said. I started with meditating on the word, the load of negativity and loneliness that was replaced with Gods presence made me realize what a mess i was. Each day i had fellowship with God, i felt a sense of peace and fullness being poured into me. I felt love embracing me and Joy leaping in my heart! I knew He was doing something great through his spirit in me. Today i stand, a young confident lady who knows who she is in Christ, one who is content and not just waiting on God but waiting in him.

Isaiah 40: 31 “Those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles, they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faith.”

Having placed my hope in God has really strengthened me, it has made me continue on this journey(life) even when Single. When you let God take the initiative, God will work. You need to Cease trying and just start trusting him and praising Him for what He is going to do! He will answer when the time is right. Yes your friends might be engaged and in Good relationships but when your time comes for you to reap, you will realize how it was worth sowing <3. 

written october 2014

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Mirror mirror on the wall

There i was standing before my mirror. My eyes looked big, my tummy was popping out, my thighs looked so huge you could swear i was fed fast food from being an infant until my teenage years. I had a scar on my face and my teeth were not as straight as my friends teeth! Tormented by this image before my very eyes, i suffered a great deal! I saw nothing beautiful about myself so i decided to do something about it! I decided i was going to use make-up, i was going to try all sorts of diet pills (including apple cider vinegar) and to my surprise all these did not work! Each day i could feel a piece of my joy and confidence being cropped out! I could see them leaving me and the junctional complex between myself and them was not strong enough! Let me be Bulimic, i thought to myself! I carried my tooth brush around and after every meal, i did what i thought was good and that was “throw it all out”. Little did i know the health hazards that accompanied my new way of doing things. i became sick and i knew i had to stop!!
hopeless and feeling fat i cried myself to sleep every night…this was until God said something to me. That He has created me in his image. God told me that He knitted me up in my mothers womb and made every delicate part of me! He told me that i have been excellently and beautifully crafted!

ok ok God i hear you (i said), but how could you exalt me like that wen i look like this? ( i asked)

I was eager to hear his answer and when He said it, i fell to my knees and cried. God said to me “Look inside you, i reside in you and that is the source of who you are. I have spoken words into your life and if you read them, you will know who you are”

I was excited and really wanted to know which words God was talking about!

1. Deuteronomy 26:18
The Lord has declared today that you are his people, his OWN SPECIAL TREASURE, just as he promised.

2.Proverbs 31:26
When she speaks, her words are WISE, and kindness is the rule when she gives instructions

3.Romans 12:6
we have DIFFERENT GIFTS , according to the grace given us

4.Jeremiah 17:7
BLESSED are those who trust in the lord

5.Matthew 13:43
The RIGHTEOUS will SHINE like the sun in the kingdom of their father

I saw these verses and many more. Some i read state that i am more than a conqueror, the salt of the earth, peculiar,Strong, wise and made in Gods image! when i saw all that God had said about me, i decided to filter out what people had said about me. I decided to reconstruct what the mirror said with what God says i am! i am beautiful, powerful, blessed and dearly loved by God.

Mirror mirror on the wall, i am very pretty says my father (God).
No make up, no clothing can make you feel good if you do not feel and see the good in yourself

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Practicals are essential when you already have the theory

There was once a time i bragged about being the best when it came to baking the red velvet cake. I knew the recipe in and out. When asked about how to prepare it, i was quick to answer! I was really really confident until i was asked to bake it!! I knew what to do but had no idea how to do it! I had all the ingredients but i had no idea how to put everything together to make that red velvet cake i knew so well in my head.
Where am i going with this?

Many of us know the scriptures so well, we know what God has freely given to us. We quote them so well but happen to not have all those things(healing, peace, joy etc)

Many of us know who we are in Christ but somehow do not allow those characteristics to manifest. Its like knowing you are a woman but deciding to not dress like one.

Many of us know who God is and we speak so much about putting our trust in Him, we speak so much about how Hes our provider but when we are down to nothing, we forget the very God we told the nations about and start running around like headless chickens.

I have experienced one of the above and I got to learn that as much as you have the theory (knowledge), the fact that you dont apply it or allow it to manifest hinders you! # Lets start practicing what we preach- moving from just knowing the theories to the practicals

Dear future Husband

DEAR FUTURE HUSBAND.

As i starred into the sky, my eyes were enticed by the beauty displayed by the stars.
the stars sparkled as though they were not hidden for the day.
they sparkled so bright they ignited something within me.

you see there is so much power in the unseen.
had that not been the case, The God we serve would not be so significant in our lives.
had that not been the case, i would not jump with joy anytime i have an encounter with a God who is omnipresent.
Had it not been the case, my heart would not beat faster with excitement at the thought of you
my heart would not rejoice even though it has not met you

i know its not good for a man to be alone hence in your singleness God is equiping you to be the "perfect" man for me.
In my singleness God is moulding me into the vessel that will compliment yours.
He is moulding me into the vessel that will work hand in hand with yours.
He is restoring my heart so that when 1 corinthians 13 is mentioned you would look at me and smile knowing that i define it for you daily.
He is recreating the way i speak so that with words i utter
with every brick (word) i bring before you, it builds you and not break you.
In my singleness He is transforming my mind so that when we meet we are both geared with greatness. That we are dressed up in growth and equiped with his Word.

I would ask the potter to bring you now before my eyes .
but i prefer fully fixing my eyes on Him first so that when we are together we will always keep our eyes on Him in the midst of it all.
I would ask the potter to make you hold my hand but i want to first learn fully to walk hand in hand with Him before He could cut you in.

The world says they look forward to meeting their better halves but i look forward to meeting my complete piece because in Christ we are made complete.
the world speaks of how they "fear" heartaches but i have not been given the spirit of fear so with great anticipation i look forward to the love within you that will radiate towards me
i look forward to meeting you my prince, one who is not just in a shining armor but in a armor of God.

I have gotten to realise that as much as i would love to know you and start spending my couple of forevers with you now, I have to be the woman God wants me to be before i fully take my position as the woman you want me to be.

Im enjoying the fruit :"patience"and by the time you and i meet, the fruits of the spirit will be within us and around us.
By the time we meet, God would have moulded me to be what He requires me to be.
By the time we meet, Any heartache that happened will not be carried on your shoulder.
By the time we meet you will definitely never find yourself flirting with darkness.

By the time we meet, Your standards will be in front of you.
Never settle for less because whatever you want God can provide...

I know our relationship will be an inspiration
The ön-ramp" of impurity will not be our portion because you will not bring about any blemish on me.
I know God will be the one we allow to whisper into our ears because there will just be no room for negativity.
I know you will inspire me and be there for me.

Great women do exist, i am one and God is making me better.
I pray that when we meet, my actions will speak Genuine care.
that my smile will show you how faithful our God is, yes in hard times, He kept me strong.

May my presence in your life never drive you away from God
May my presence in your life bring joy.
May my presence in your life bring about growth.
May my presence in your life make you glad you waited for me
May my presence in your life only bring about the best.

With you and I side by side, God can and will change the world.
With you and i side by side the best will come about.
With you and I side by side, laughter will be a rhythm we dance to.
With you and I side by side, we will not be shaken even when storms come our way because we have been rooted deeply in Christ.
With you and I side by side, the storms of life will not blow us away from each other but they will bring us even closer.
with you and I side by side we will definitely make the best team.

You can be David and I can be the rock, together we can bring Goliath down.
You can be Joseph and I can be Mary, together we will accomplish whatever God wants us to.heart emoticon

Your flaws will not give me any reason to love you less but they will give me more reason to love you even more... we are in the potters hands, He will do the fixing if we let him.

A couple that prays together stays together, May my presence in your life not dilute this but emphasize it.

From your future wife♥ heart emoticon heart emoticon
Kamogelo Shanice Mashilo
(22-05-2015 17:53)

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The right thing at the wrong time is the wrong thing

The right thing at the wrong time is the wrong thing. Its saddening how we have adopted the immediate gratification mentality instead of paying attention to the seasons that we are in. The role of spring should not be forced to be like that of winter. Different seasons of our lives have different emphasis, focus and beauty and each season yields its own unique treasures. We need to stop skipping ahead to experience the riches of one season when its not time for it because the outcome of skipping a certain season might not be desirable. Each season builds on one before it. Lets learn to be sensitive to the different seasons in our lives ‪#‎THE‬ RIGHT THING AT THE WRONG TIME IS THE WRONG THING.heart emoticon

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Goodbye to settling

A friend took me out not so long ago. The place was so fancy i just knew my wallet was going to be emptied. We sat and ordered food. I looked at how much i had and decided to order based on that, my friend on the other hand ordered so many things lol. So we ate and when it was time to pay, my friend said this to me "I CALLED you to come here so i will pay". At this moment i was thinking about ALL the food i could have chosen. I settled for "decent"based on my pocket.

MORAL OF THE STORY:
There are things that you want but cannot get because you are focusing on your situations and abilities instead of focusing on God.The price has been paid, just SEEK the Lord and EVERYTHING shall be added unto you.remember that He loved and chose you before you could love Him back heart emoticon
‪#‎Goodbye‬ to settling, hello to the BEST

Inner man vs Outer man

He must be Tall, Handsome, Love formal wear, Have a beautiful smile and well built”, i thought to myself. I was having a great time describing him and soaking my mind with the image I was designing. My being yearned to meet him. When I thought of us together, it made the puzzle look so much better than the view of the sunrise!
The outward appearance seemed so appealing to me that it almost drained out things that matter most! luckily for me, I remembered something! I won’t get married to his fine suit or his company but I will have to get married to what is within, The inner man!

So many times we look at what pleases our eyes and not our hearts! We look at the vessel that we see moving around but we care not to look at what the vessel is carrying! I am not a relationship expert because clearly from looking at my previous relationship, there is still more to learn!
This though does not mean that I cannot see that people are blinded by what their eyes are fixed on! They are impressed by the labels a man carries rather than the qualities he possesses! They are impressed by the amount of money he blows forgetting that storing up treasures on earth is not wise because those very treasures can be stolen. They are impressed by the car (body) they see but not by the manufacturer (God).

1Peter 3:3 don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God!

The outward beauty and his career won’t be making you happy for the rest of your life. The outward beauty won’t be the source of love! How He appears won’t make him submit to you under the reverence of Christ. It won’t make him a Head that will lead well. It won’t make you holy, clean and cleansed by Gods word! His money and “cuteness” won’t present you before God without blemish or spot or wrinkle. His height won’t determine the length of years you will be together!! His money won’t reproduce the type of love and care your heart will be thirsty for! His career won’t make sure you guys are inseparable!

All these physical things can disappear at the blink of an eye you know that right? So what will you do? Leave him? Cheat? Be lonely? Depressed?

Be wise when you choose someone to spend your life with. The outward appearance might look attractive but nothing is as attractive as the inner man that is in the likeness of God. I am not saying its wrong to date a good looking , wealthy, well built man but you need to allow those to be the bonus things and not your main reason for being with him! With his money he can pay bills but that wont measure to what He can do with his identity in Christ. The man within is greater! That’s where you will draw love, peace, strength, support, care and joy from! The beauty that comes from within (the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit) is what is so precious to God and it should be what is precious to you too

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PICK UP THE PIECES AND MOVE FORWARD!!!

A while back, I made up my mind to never allow a man into my life. Like the sky is blue on a sunny day, I believed this would forever be. I mean if my heart has been so severely broken then why risk it?

This decision felt right until……until i had a conversation with a friend. He told me that after a golden cup has been broken, we should not disregard the smaller pieces because they are still gold and something great can come from it.

like an exponential graph, my thoughts exponentially grew… i thought until i thought there would be no space for another thought.

Know what i learnt?

1. That when you have a broken heart give it to God. He will mend it for you. Hes our father and would not want to see us hurt and broken. He would not want us to withhold from the great things He wants to give us because of the past.
2. From my broken heart, i got to know myself better! How? i got to know my worth as a woman. If it was not for it, i probably would have thought i deserve “ordinary” and not “extra-ordinary”. I would have thought that being cheated on, made to feel small is normal. As long as he claims to love you then its okay right? no! The kind of love stated in 1 corinthians 13 really is what we all deserve.
3. I got to learn that the best love story written is by God and if you decide to be your own author, then things might not work in your favour. God is the beginning and the end. Beginning something without the Beginning “God” is just a wrong move.
4. if something did not go right the first time then it does not mean you should give up and write it off! If doing this was best then Christ would have given up on the world, the moment the first people rejected him!
5.Just because something did not work out, it does not mean, your less pretty, less special and a failure.

Do i still say “no to love”? ofcourse not! God is love and i wont let the past hurts to write off my love story. Just because a person does not appreciate you, it does not mean your worthless. if we were all to see ourselves in the eyes of God, most of us would not starve ourselves, do unnecessary surgeries, allow ourselves to be side-chicks, push people who care away, stoop down to meet a guys needs!

A broken heart is not the end of you! Give it to God, allow him to heal you! Love yourself and be positive! Stand up and be a better you! It wont happen overnight but you need to be willing to allow the process to take place. Change will not happen until you decide you want it.

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LOVE YOU

Sometimes one needs to wake up, stare at themselves in the mirror and see how amazing they are! Dance in the rain and sing to their favourite song! Eat a meal without worrying about the calories. See beauty in others instead of envying them! There are so many things we can do to avoid a lot of Insecurities and loving yourself, appreciating yourself and loving others is the first step!

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