The right thing at the wrong time is the wrong thing

The right thing at the wrong time is the wrong thing. Its saddening how we have adopted the immediate gratification mentality instead of paying attention to the seasons that we are in. The role of spring should not be forced to be like that of winter. Different seasons of our lives have different emphasis, focus and beauty and each season yields its own unique treasures. We need to stop skipping ahead to experience the riches of one season when its not time for it because the outcome of skipping a certain season might not be desirable. Each season builds on one before it. Lets learn to be sensitive to the different seasons in our lives ‪#‎THE‬ RIGHT THING AT THE WRONG TIME IS THE WRONG THING.heart emoticon

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Goodbye to settling

A friend took me out not so long ago. The place was so fancy i just knew my wallet was going to be emptied. We sat and ordered food. I looked at how much i had and decided to order based on that, my friend on the other hand ordered so many things lol. So we ate and when it was time to pay, my friend said this to me "I CALLED you to come here so i will pay". At this moment i was thinking about ALL the food i could have chosen. I settled for "decent"based on my pocket.

MORAL OF THE STORY:
There are things that you want but cannot get because you are focusing on your situations and abilities instead of focusing on God.The price has been paid, just SEEK the Lord and EVERYTHING shall be added unto you.remember that He loved and chose you before you could love Him back heart emoticon
‪#‎Goodbye‬ to settling, hello to the BEST

Inner man vs Outer man

He must be Tall, Handsome, Love formal wear, Have a beautiful smile and well built”, i thought to myself. I was having a great time describing him and soaking my mind with the image I was designing. My being yearned to meet him. When I thought of us together, it made the puzzle look so much better than the view of the sunrise!
The outward appearance seemed so appealing to me that it almost drained out things that matter most! luckily for me, I remembered something! I won’t get married to his fine suit or his company but I will have to get married to what is within, The inner man!

So many times we look at what pleases our eyes and not our hearts! We look at the vessel that we see moving around but we care not to look at what the vessel is carrying! I am not a relationship expert because clearly from looking at my previous relationship, there is still more to learn!
This though does not mean that I cannot see that people are blinded by what their eyes are fixed on! They are impressed by the labels a man carries rather than the qualities he possesses! They are impressed by the amount of money he blows forgetting that storing up treasures on earth is not wise because those very treasures can be stolen. They are impressed by the car (body) they see but not by the manufacturer (God).

1Peter 3:3 don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God!

The outward beauty and his career won’t be making you happy for the rest of your life. The outward beauty won’t be the source of love! How He appears won’t make him submit to you under the reverence of Christ. It won’t make him a Head that will lead well. It won’t make you holy, clean and cleansed by Gods word! His money and “cuteness” won’t present you before God without blemish or spot or wrinkle. His height won’t determine the length of years you will be together!! His money won’t reproduce the type of love and care your heart will be thirsty for! His career won’t make sure you guys are inseparable!

All these physical things can disappear at the blink of an eye you know that right? So what will you do? Leave him? Cheat? Be lonely? Depressed?

Be wise when you choose someone to spend your life with. The outward appearance might look attractive but nothing is as attractive as the inner man that is in the likeness of God. I am not saying its wrong to date a good looking , wealthy, well built man but you need to allow those to be the bonus things and not your main reason for being with him! With his money he can pay bills but that wont measure to what He can do with his identity in Christ. The man within is greater! That’s where you will draw love, peace, strength, support, care and joy from! The beauty that comes from within (the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit) is what is so precious to God and it should be what is precious to you too

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PICK UP THE PIECES AND MOVE FORWARD!!!

A while back, I made up my mind to never allow a man into my life. Like the sky is blue on a sunny day, I believed this would forever be. I mean if my heart has been so severely broken then why risk it?

This decision felt right until……until i had a conversation with a friend. He told me that after a golden cup has been broken, we should not disregard the smaller pieces because they are still gold and something great can come from it.

like an exponential graph, my thoughts exponentially grew… i thought until i thought there would be no space for another thought.

Know what i learnt?

1. That when you have a broken heart give it to God. He will mend it for you. Hes our father and would not want to see us hurt and broken. He would not want us to withhold from the great things He wants to give us because of the past.
2. From my broken heart, i got to know myself better! How? i got to know my worth as a woman. If it was not for it, i probably would have thought i deserve “ordinary” and not “extra-ordinary”. I would have thought that being cheated on, made to feel small is normal. As long as he claims to love you then its okay right? no! The kind of love stated in 1 corinthians 13 really is what we all deserve.
3. I got to learn that the best love story written is by God and if you decide to be your own author, then things might not work in your favour. God is the beginning and the end. Beginning something without the Beginning “God” is just a wrong move.
4. if something did not go right the first time then it does not mean you should give up and write it off! If doing this was best then Christ would have given up on the world, the moment the first people rejected him!
5.Just because something did not work out, it does not mean, your less pretty, less special and a failure.

Do i still say “no to love”? ofcourse not! God is love and i wont let the past hurts to write off my love story. Just because a person does not appreciate you, it does not mean your worthless. if we were all to see ourselves in the eyes of God, most of us would not starve ourselves, do unnecessary surgeries, allow ourselves to be side-chicks, push people who care away, stoop down to meet a guys needs!

A broken heart is not the end of you! Give it to God, allow him to heal you! Love yourself and be positive! Stand up and be a better you! It wont happen overnight but you need to be willing to allow the process to take place. Change will not happen until you decide you want it.

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LOVE YOU

Sometimes one needs to wake up, stare at themselves in the mirror and see how amazing they are! Dance in the rain and sing to their favourite song! Eat a meal without worrying about the calories. See beauty in others instead of envying them! There are so many things we can do to avoid a lot of Insecurities and loving yourself, appreciating yourself and loving others is the first step!

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